Picture the scene: you’re halfway through Thanksgiving dinner. The cranberry sauce is delicious, the conversation is flowing, and the toasts are heartfelt. Then Uncle John says something that hits a nerve. You notice that familiar pit in your stomach, and you quietly wonder: Do I speak up or let it pass? How do I honor my values without unraveling the moment?
Starting next week, many of us will gather with people we love, including people whose views we struggle to understand. These events may feel both joyful and complicated, especially when conversations touch on values, identity, or lived experience.
Below are five human-centered strategies that can help us navigate these moments:
- See the human, not the position.
Focus on the human behind the comment; each person is shaped by their own unique history, struggles, and personal experiences. Listen with curiosity, and offer reflection so they know you understand them. - Turn to story.
When tension rises, resist the pull towards debate. Instead, invite the sharing of narratives by asking open-ended questions like, “What experiences have guided your thoughts on that?” You can also explore deeper context: “Tell me more about that.” Story builds understanding and fosters genuine connection. - Take intentional breaks.
When conversations feel charged, it’s okay to pause before responding. Or, if you need more time, you can step away after saying, “I want to reply thoughtfully. I’d like to take a few minutes and then circle back.” Purposeful pauses create space to process, reset, and ground ourselves. - Name and honor your needs.
Boundaries can be both clear and kind. You may prefer to set limits on topics that aren’t relevant, productive, or supportive. You may also choose to establish shared agreements for respectful dialogue so that everyone feels comfortable participating fully. - Practice self-care.
Attend to your own well-being through practices like movement, gratitude, and music. Connect to a trusted ally who can offer a listening ear. And remember to extend compassion to yourself and others as we move through these complicated spaces together.
Here’s the bonus: these same relational skills that help us navigate family dynamics can be just as powerful at work—in team meetings, coaching conversations, and everyday office interactions. By using a human-centered approach, we invite thoughtfulness, build trust, and deepen connection.
Whether we’re in a boardroom or a living room, each interaction offers a chance to slow down, support our own well-being, and engage with warmth and intention.
May this holiday season remind us to show up with authenticity, compassion, and practices that help us stay steady and engaged.